Counselling is about helping people work through challenges we all face, like managing stress, difficult relationships, affairs, anxiety or coping with bereavement or addiction. In order to do this there needs to be a connection, a feeling of safety. I provide a confidential environment in which you can explore difficult issues with my role being to unravel and help you explore and understand how these issues are impacting you and your life, and help you to find ways to manage them.
Deciding to try counselling usually comes after a lengthy period of trying to solve problems by yourself or as a couple. Depending on what type of person you are, the idea of talking to a ‘stranger’ about deeply personal issues in a counselling session can create anything between ‘a little’ to ‘off the scale’ levels of anxiety.
When thinking about whether counselling is for you or not knowing what to expect or even feeling the pressure of choosing the right counsellor can be anxiety making.
I offer a free initial 20 minute meeting to explore what it is you would like to look at in counselling and we can get an idea of whether we both feel we could work together effectively.
One common feature of all counsellors is the duty of care to their client and the confidentiality that exists between counsellor and client. I am accredited by The National Counselling Society and abide by their ethical and professional standards.
Different counsellors have areas of specialism or use different therapeutic approaches to help their clients. My approach is Integrated which means I use a range of therapeutic methods to explore, understand and overcome or learn to manage what is troubling you. Although I specialise in counselling loss and addiction, these are often entwined with anxiety, depression, low self-esteem or self-worth or trauma, such as abuse or PTSD.
It is quite common for clients to be unsure of what’s creating the difficulties in their lives and relationships and that’s why speaking with a qualified counsellor is so useful. I am trained to able to understand your situation on a deeper level because I am separate from you and trained to recognise, separate out and make progress on the issues you need help with.
The first counselling session is an opportunity to talk about all the issues you are struggling with and are causing you distress. It’s important for you to understand, I will never judge you or criticise you. What you say will be held in the strictest of confidence and not disclosed. Anything you feel you need or want to say is fine in our sessions as this is your space to be open and honest about your feelings, to talk freely about your emotions so we can really understand where the issues come from and why they are upsetting you.
Counselling can help you identify concerns and develop strategies to use outside of our sessions. I will often help clients understand the stages leading up to the events, recognising having awareness can help you to manage normally ‘triggering’ situations in a constructive way.
Having support from friends and family is very important but often it can hard to be completely honest. Speaking with a counsellor is completely unique because you can talk with complete honesty knowing I am impartial, outside of your social circle and the focus always remains on you and what will help you. What you say in session will not be repeated and where friends and family may want you to do something in a particular way or approach, I will help you to determine for yourself what the best approach is for you.
Counselling is about helping you to understand the issues you are facing in life and learning how to manage and overcome these challenges.